My Grandma(long and vent)

A few prayers needed for my grandmother and my sanity

I woke up yesterday with that stupid gut feeling something wasn't right. I called my parents house as I always do and no answer, no biggie they are adults and take off when they feel like it. So I figured they went for breakfast. As the day went on I started feeling really sick, I was calling and no answer. So now I am thinking maybe they decided to take off and go visit my brother. Hubby and I left to go shopping and pick up the girls, in the meantime I am still feeling just awful.

We finally arrive home to see my parents had called, I return their call asap and my gut was right. My grandmother fell once again on Saturday night. This time she banged her head off the stove and couldn't get up at all. She called my aunt who say she wasn't coming over for grandma just to get up and sit in her chair. Hello the woman just fell and can't get up and smack her head. So the supertenant came over and got grandma up.

Sunday morning Mom and Dad get a call at 7a.m. they are taking grandma by ambulance to the hospital. I guess my aunt was called but she had plans and told the super to call my parents. My aunt lives not 5 minutes from grandma and my parents live a good 20 minute drive from her.

So off to the hospital she goes and they do what they had to do and then get this send her freaking home. She didn't break any bones this time. Hello what about hitting her head off the stove doesn't that need to be addressed. This is the third time she has fell this past year. I am so ready to lose it with my aunt and the doctors. Mom is keeping in touch with her every hour or so but can't stay with her because of her job. Mean while my aunt who is off work can't stay with her because it is too much right now. PLEASE

Grandma is now at home resting. My father has had enough of her falling and health issues and has put his foot down that she has to make the decision she either lives with them, my aunt or goes into a home. She can't stay on her own anymore. Well I guess that didn't go over to well, but she just can't be left on her own anymore. My mom makes all her meals and they deliver them to her, she has a house keeper, someone does her laundry and she has a lady come into bath her, but she is saying she is fine and can live on her own. I use to take care of her all the time when my parents didn't live in the area and I was closer but now it takes my almost 45 minutes to get there and that is when the roads are good. I am just getting so frustrated.

I am at a lost. I feel that I should be there with her but that is just impossible to do. My parents are trying to insure me that everything is going to work out. I just feel so helpless.

Leah

Oh Leah, I can soooooo relate to this, sigh. I am going through virtually the same things with my Mom ( she is blind and has a ton of health issues) and insists on living alone. I have 2 brothers that live close to her, one does all that he can possibly do, the other does NOTHING! My oldest brother and I are both about 7 hours away, 1 brother 2 hours away . We do what we can for afar. I will pray for you and your family. I know how frustrated you must be. God bless you and your parents for doing all that you can. As for your Aunt, remember what my mom always says "what goes around, comes around". Your aunt isnt off the hook by a long shot (neither is my brother) sad to say that some day their actions will come back to haunt them! Big hug and lots of prayers comming your way.

I can understand your feelings towards your aunt. Maybe it is time to tell her that you are praying that the Lord will soften her heart and that she will realize who took care of and loved her for many years. Someday she, and all of us will be in the same boat.

Praying for you. Auntie needs to cut out the diva act, and you need to learn to accept the circumstances. Have grandmother decide to live with Auntie.

My prayrs are with you. Right now I flew from Tennessee to Mont to stay with my 98 yo Dad for awhile. He had stopped going down for meals and his catheter wasn't draining. He does have a brother and sister that look in on him, but they aren't young either. I'm trying to set up some help for him before going home. Praise the Lord, he is much stronger now than when I arrived. Just hope he keeps going to meals when I leave for home. It is hard to become a caregiver for your parents or grandparents. Susan

Hugs and prayers for all of you.

Grandma does need to make a decision, or someone else has to make the decision for her. You all are right. She cannot continue to live alone.
The aunt will get her just dues. As has been said above, what goes around comes around.
I understand you are feeling helpless, but there is nothing you can do.
Prayers are being said for all of you.

Leah, my prayers are with you and your family. I pray that Grandma makes a decision and gets some help.
Hugs, Paula