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07-21-2008, 12:53 PM
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Joseph and I met in a music chat room on the net. After being married for 28 years and raising 6 children I was alone for the first time in my life. (got married the first time at age 16) I was scared, lost, and so lonley I could barely stand it. I Lived in a very small rural community in northern Minnesota and there was not a lot of nightlife and I did not do bars so I went online every night and played cards (euchre mostly) and to talk to people. I have to say I made some lifelong internet friends and I met some real strange people, lol. One of my online friends invited me to this chat site music room she went to so I said sure, why not. After I was there for a few weeks, a person in the room started directing his chat toward me and we would joke and laugh and talk about music and life. After about 3 or 4 months of this he sent me a private message and we started to talk in the room in public and on the side in private. About 3 months after that he asked if he could call me on the phone. I said I was uncomfortable giving out my phone number. He said well, here is mine, call me collect, I just want to hear your voice. (we had exchanged pictures and he knew that I was no spring chicken barbie doll look alike). Anyway I called him collect and we talked for an hour. He told me to call him the next day so I did. After a couple of weeks of calling collect I felt bad and more comfortable giving my number so I offered to give it to him. He said oh, I have it, I have caller ID so I have always known. (caller id was not an option where I lived so I did not even think about it). I could not believe it, he had my number all that time but never once called it and spent boo coo bucks talking collect to me. I knew I wanted to know him more. So that began the daily phone calls. A few (maybe 3) months later we made plans for him to come to Minnesota to meet. He made reservations at the Shores and I arranged to pick him up at the airport in Duluth. The minute I saw him I knew I was in love with him, he is such a cutie pie. We spent a long weekend having so much fun! He even asked my best friend to join us for a few outings just to help me be comfortable. I was heartsick and devastated when he had to leave. When he got home and called me he said he felt the same way, told me he loved me and asked me to move to Michigan and live with him and his daughter (who was in college). (We had had many conversations about not wanting to get married again) I was so confused, I knew I was in love with him but was this the right thing to do? Leave everyone and everything I knew to move to Michigan with a virtual stranger? He was not a stranger to me at all, I felt connected to him but other people had doubts and for a bit I listened. Then one Monday morning at work I got called up to the front office and there was the most beautiful boquet of roses I had ever seen. (Joe and I had had a conversation a long time ago about the fact that I was married 28 years had 6 kids and never once got flowers.) He sent the flowers to say I love you no matter what you decide I will be here. I got roses every Monday morning at work for the next 9 week before I finally said, ok, I will come and live with you in Michigan. I had knee surgery on Aug. 27, Joe arrived on sept 6, My best friend got married on Sept 8. and on Sept 9, 2001 we were on our way here. Fastr forward to 2004. Joe surprised me and invited my mom and kids to our house in michigan for christmas in 2004 and those that were able to come were witness to the biggest surprise of my life when he asked me to marry him and gave me a beautiful ring. We were married in May of 06. I can not imagine my life without him, he is the love of my life. The wedding was in our back yard and so beautiful! Only about 60 people, family and friends, but the party lasted all night, lol. I went to bed at 2 am and told everyone still there to have fun and lock up when they went home! It was one of the greatest days of my life. My children love and respect him because of the kind, gentle man he is. I get along well with his family and we are sooo incredibly happy. I will post pictures of the wedding in an album after I find the disc they are on, lol. Sorry to be so long winded but that is just me, lol. My only regret is that my dad never got to meet him. My mom loves him, I always tease her that she loves him best! lol.
P.S. Joe still brings me flowers, not every week, he is over that lol, but often! | 