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MGF, First sit up nice and tall; take a deep breath in and raise your arms above your head; now lower them slowly while exhaling...
Concerning dishes; laundry; dirty toilets say a resounding "Oh Well". If it's really getting bad, find someone who could use a little extra cash and offer them $30 to come in for 2 or 3 hours to clean what ever is bothing you the most. There's always someone willing to do this. I have always been able to find someone on the occassions I've gotten overwhelmed by household crap, and it's always worth the $30.

The "little things" are getting to you because you don't know what to do about the big thing.
Write it down or speak it out loud. "The door to the bedroom squeeks, where is the wd-40?" (at this point someone says "talking to yourself Mom/Honey" to which I reply "No one else will help me solve this problem, so me, myself and I are working on it") This usually gets someone helping me.

The big problem. Your daughter. It was really hard for me to admit I couldn't handle the problems with my son alone. After all, I'm the mom, I should just know what to do. Right. You need to find real help here. A clergy; a counselor; or someone who's been through it with there own kids. How old your daughter is will effect the actions you have to take, but take action.

Finally, I have a crying towel hanging on the back of the computer chair, it says "Oh Well" on it. Throw up your hands and say it, "Oh well", when there really isn't anything you can do but move forward. I got it from a guest speaker at our church in Virginia Beach who told the story of his RV breaking down on a hill, and when the tow truck guy tried to move it, it started rolling, and rolled right down the hill to a crashing hault. And while it was rolling he looked at his wife and said, "Oh well". There was nothing he could do to stop it all he could do is move forward. Call the insurance, etc.


If all else fails here's the advice a doctor gave me over 20 years ago. Keep a supply of yard sale glasses on hand with some goggles. When stressed go out side and throw them at a wall. You can't believe how good it feels. You don't even mind cleaning up the mess!